Travelling to meet my new niece

I am sitting in the airport in Frankfurt reflecting on the last few days here. There were times when I found it tricky, but for the most part spending time with my sister and my little niece was pretty relaxed. It’s always challenging for me when I’m away from home. Less so when I have…

Family: Old and new

At the moment, I’ve got one tiny new family member, and a very frail old one who are both very much on my mind. Neither of them is closely connected to the emotional difficulties I have with my family (least of all the new little one), so I find it easier to feel caring towards…

I am ashamed

Shame is a powerful force. It lingers and spreads, evolving unnoticed until it touches everything. Shame carves a path that annihilates whatever is in its way. And once it’s got a hold, it takes an iron will to overcome it. Wouldn’t it be nice to remember a time without shame? Those hapless days without concern…

Art update

I haven’t shared any of what I’ve been painting in a while. Art is very much another aspect of therapy for me. It centres me and gets me focusing on something outside of the chaos in my head. Plus, when you work in a office only generating files on a computer, it is so satisfying…

Step one (possibly 0.5): Life is unmanageable

I never thought I was a meetings person. It goes without saying that AA and the like work for a lot of people. But I tried the addicts groups and I found them abrasive. Plus I’ve had a lot of trouble with the whole ‘higher power’ concept that’s so central to the twelve step approach. The…

Writing to the child within

I’ve been considering making contact with my inner child. I don’t mean metaphorically, I mean literally writing to her and allowing her to respond. At the CoDA meeting on Saturday, I got talking to someone who did some left hand / right hand writing. She said it was a revelation. She couldn’t believe what her…