How to report historic abuse: The first step

I wanted to write a few short, informative posts on this. When I was searching for information on how to report sexual abuse I suffered as a child, I found it difficult to find any simple, practical information. At the same time, I think it helps to hear it from someone who has done it….

F*** you Steven Fry

I’m going to have an angry rant. And I’m not going to apologise for it. Because a man I had nothing but respect and admiration for said some truly contemptuous things this week. Yeah you guessed right – I’m talking about Steven Fry. I’d always held Mr Fry in high esteem. He’s a highly intellectual…

Tips for getting the most from group therapy

Group therapy is something we’re not all that accustomed to in the UK. We’ve barely got our heads around doing therapy individually, so it isn’t surprising that baring your soul in a group evokes trepidation. Before being admitted to a psychiatric hospital last year, my only experience of group therapy was as a child in…

Frivolity: 20 sentence starters

Feeling a bit blocked creatively, I read this post with some writing prompts and took the inspiration to complete the 20 sentence starters for myself. If I could visit anywhere I would go to the barrier reef. I’d love to do some snorkelling or diving there are see the incredible wildlife. The color blue reminds me…

What is codependency?

Codependency is something we all experience to a degree. But some of us are more attached to its dysfunctional patterns, becoming ‘relationship addicts’ when our codependency makes our lives unmanageable. Here’s a paragraph from the CoDA website describing in a nutshell what codependency means. What is Co-Dependency? “We came to accept our inability to maintain healthy and…

The problem of pain

Read this lovely quote from C.S. Lewis the other day. It makes perfect sense.

Strong at the broken places

“The world breaks everyone and afterward some are strong at the broken places.” Ernest Hemingway I’ve just finished reading another book about child abuse. I love to learn more about the issues that affect me, and it is always illuminating to explore different perspectives and read the stories of other survivors. I thought I’d start…

4 Reasons I hate antidepressants

Here’s a post for the medicated many out there. I know a fair few of my readers can empathise with how crappy it is taking antidepressants. These drugs change you. They alter how your brain chemistry operates and that’s pretty scary right? Before my breakdown, I was totally against them. And although I’m on five kinds…

Setting up a support / psychotherapy group

Are you looking for a support group? Do you feel like it would be beneficial to be with a group of like-minded people who you can share your experiences with in a confidential setting? I’m working with a couple of organisations to set up one or more psychotherapy groups in and around Guildford in Surrey….

Mindfulness: You’ve got to dare to be present

For a long time, silence was synonymous with my misery. Being still and quiet would mean drowning in negative thoughts and self-criticism. Panicking about everything I needed to do and all that is past and won’t ever change. I constantly distracted myself, with work, TV, sport, alcohol, whatever was easiest at the time. Anything to…

3 Techniques for everyday mindfulness

I’ll admit I was a mindfulness cynic. It’s this buzz word in mental health that everyone pushes on you. When I first heard of mindfulness I thought it sounded ridiculous. I wondered how on earth sitting quietly and focusing all my senses of a cup of tea would ever help me. I had to find a…

What is dissociation?

A lot of trauma survivors suffer from dissociation, but you don’t hear people talking about it much. There even seems to be an absence of understanding among therapists, which I have seen first-hand on more than one occasion. I remember one specific group session in hospital, in which a woman completely dissociated. The experienced and…